I would not mind in the least if she kept her family name. In fact, I would respect it and honor it.
This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant.
It has to do with lineage.
Name change for a woman was created originally because women were property. I could buy a wife for 10 sheep and 3 goats. If she was really sturdy and produce a lot of heirs it would be 15 sheep and 4 cows. And so, as my property she takes my name. She is "mine."
That is no longer true. Today, she is not my property. She is my companion.
I will give the same respect to the lineage of my wife as I will to my own family lineage. Her roots are no less important than mine. Her mother and father are no less honorable than mine. And thus if she wishes to keep her family name I would respect that, and even honor it.
Please note again: This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant itself. It is honoring lineage.
And... we should all respect the decisions made by a particular couple. Ever situation may be different.
If my future wife ihas been divorced, I would not want her to keep the name of her former husband. Though, if she has children with that man, then that has to be taken into consideration. It may be best for the children that they have the same name as their mother. And I would do in that situation what I thought was best for them - not me.
Husbands: Would you really lay down your life for your wife as instructed? If so - what value is a name? Give up YOUR name for your wife. Would you?
The situations could be complex and there is no simple ya or nay answer here.
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