I would not mind in the least if she kept her family name. In fact, I would respect it and honor it.
This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant.
It has to do with lineage.
Name change for a woman was created originally because women were property. I could buy a wife for 10 sheep and 3 goats. If she was really sturdy and produce a lot of heirs it would be 15 sheep and 4 cows. And so, as my property she takes my name. She is "mine."
That is no longer true. Today, she is not my property. She is my companion.
I will give the same respect to the lineage of my wife as I will to my own family lineage. Her roots are no less important than mine. Her mother and father are no less honorable than mine. And thus if she wishes to keep her family name I would respect that, and even honor it.
Please note again: This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant itself. It is honoring lineage.
And... we should all respect the decisions made by a particular couple. Ever situation may be different.
If my future wife ihas been divorced, I would not want her to keep the name of her former husband. Though, if she has children with that man, then that has to be taken into consideration. It may be best for the children that they have the same name as their mother. And I would do in that situation what I thought was best for them - not me.
Husbands: Would you really lay down your life for your wife as instructed? If so - what value is a name? Give up YOUR name for your wife. Would you?
The situations could be complex and there is no simple ya or nay answer here.
My 2cents.
See Single Christian Network
Monday, June 16, 2008
Inspiration
The bible is historical as well as inspirational.
What I mean by that is that there is an actual historical record there. This does not mean that the history is the aways the way it SHOULD be, but the rather way it WAS. It is the record of the success and failures of a group of Hebrews over a long period of time.
The history shows the failings of many people. The history includes cultural traditions. The history includes wars that should not have been. The history includes the bad as well as the good. So, having said that, it is wise that we be careful in saying "well they did it this way in the bible so...." We don't carry every tradition of the Hebrew world with us into today's world. We don't wear robes today because they did in the old testament. We must be careful to separate the historical from the inspirational.
God, I believe, respected the culture of the people He was speaking to. He spoke to them in a way that they could understand. God didn't tell Moses how to conduct electricity through copper (a conductor)instead of cold glass (an insulator) because even the concept of electricity was unfathomable. God spoke to them within the framework of their understanding. God didn't speak to Moses in "Spanish."
What God is saying to you today is more important than than what or how they did things in a Hebrew world, coming out of slavery, and for the most part, very uneducated and ignorant. God spoke to them in a way they could understand. Gave them some rules to help them and let them grow. And grow they did.
Once, I taught my children not to touch matches. "They are dangerous." "Never ever play with these!" That is what I said. I was right.
I told them "Never cross the street without an adult to help you! It's dangerous!" I meant it.
I told them those things because I loved them.
Today, they use matches. They cross the street. They grew up.
So will God speak to you.
What I mean by that is that there is an actual historical record there. This does not mean that the history is the aways the way it SHOULD be, but the rather way it WAS. It is the record of the success and failures of a group of Hebrews over a long period of time.
The history shows the failings of many people. The history includes cultural traditions. The history includes wars that should not have been. The history includes the bad as well as the good. So, having said that, it is wise that we be careful in saying "well they did it this way in the bible so...." We don't carry every tradition of the Hebrew world with us into today's world. We don't wear robes today because they did in the old testament. We must be careful to separate the historical from the inspirational.
God, I believe, respected the culture of the people He was speaking to. He spoke to them in a way that they could understand. God didn't tell Moses how to conduct electricity through copper (a conductor)instead of cold glass (an insulator) because even the concept of electricity was unfathomable. God spoke to them within the framework of their understanding. God didn't speak to Moses in "Spanish."
What God is saying to you today is more important than than what or how they did things in a Hebrew world, coming out of slavery, and for the most part, very uneducated and ignorant. God spoke to them in a way they could understand. Gave them some rules to help them and let them grow. And grow they did.
Once, I taught my children not to touch matches. "They are dangerous." "Never ever play with these!" That is what I said. I was right.
I told them "Never cross the street without an adult to help you! It's dangerous!" I meant it.
I told them those things because I loved them.
Today, they use matches. They cross the street. They grew up.
So will God speak to you.
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Iraq War
The ideas below are mine. This doesn’t mean I didn’t plagiarize. Far from it. I copied from various sources, one of which is the Ron Paul website. Some sentences below are word for word from there. If I had better writing skills, or more time, I might have found a way to make every word my own, but, alas, I confess. But what you see below is mine in that I take full responsibility for posting it here. If an idea is written below it means I am in agreement with it even if I didn’t coin the original phrase. The ideas below are for your discussion and not intended to be for your approval or disapproval.
There may be little in today’s world that is more important than understanding war and the reasons for war. We live in a world of war. Christians from all walks of life, throughout the world, have differing opinions on war, and specifically this war – the Iraq war.
For over a thousand years there has been a doctrine and Christian definition of what constitutes a just war. The Christian doctrine of a just war states that there should be an act of aggression against a country to justify a war. Does the Iraq classify as a just war?
Let it be very clear: There has never been an act of aggression against the United States by Iraq. We are 6,000 miles from that land. The doctrine of a just war states that all efforts at negotiations must be exhausted. There never was any effort of negotiation between the United States and Iraq. The only purported negotiation was a declaration for Sadam Hussein to destroy his weapons of mass destruction. We now know that he did not have any weapons of mass destruction. What was he to destroy?
Some have believed, and still believe that Saddam Hussein was involved in the tragedy of 9/11. Saddam Hussein was not responsible for 9/11. He and Iraq did not physically attack or harm America or its people. President Bush told us that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction and he and Iraq were an imminent threat to America's security. Yet Iraq had shown no hostile intent, not fired a missile or a gun at America, nor had any troops even come near our shore. Even if Saddam Hussein had mass destruction weapons, he had never made a hostile move in recent years toward America, nor had he even threatened us. According to true Christian theology of a just war we did not have a just reason to attack and go to war with Iraq.
I believe the Iraq war is an unjust war. The United States did not have the right to destroy Saddam Hussein and kill his people just because we suspected he might eventually attack the U.S. The preemptive strike policy Bush has established is both unholy and not Christian. This is not new -- many pagan countries embrace it. No aggression is necessary to declare war, only suspicion. This is not true self-defense. When we go to war under this policy we are the aggressor and murderers. Also, we must ask this question -- who made us the judge over other nations to decide which ruler needs to fall? Who made us the policemen of the world? This is an extremely arrogant policy, which sets us up above other nations. The more we will attack other nations under this policy, the more the wrath of the world's countries will be toward us.
We have attacked a county halfway around the world that was no threat to us. We have justified this war by saying, "Saddam Hussein was an evil ruler", "the people needed to be freed from oppression", "Iraq was a threat to the U.S.," etc. But whatever the reasons, they do not justify this war. 9/11 does not give us the right to attack and destroy nations just because we have been attacked and are afraid to be attacked again. The invasion of Iraq and the continued presence there makes us no better than Saddam Hussein or Bin Laden.
Had Timothy McVeigh bombed the CN Tower in Toronto instead of Oklahoma City, would that give justification for Canada to invade the U.S. in response? Suppose instead they had invaded Mexico, explaining it was in the same "part of the world." Would this have been justice?
This is what the United States has down in the invasion of Iraq. In failing to catch those responsible for the murder of three thousand innocent Americans, instead The U.S. lashed out indiscriminately at persons of like ethnicity and faith. Bin Laden walks free while hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis uninvolved in his crimes have paid the ultimate penalty.
Politics creates strange bedfellows. When the Soviet Union stormed into their Afghanistan quagmire, the U.S. funded the Islamic extremists fighting them, not out of identifiable empathy but on the principle that the enemy of my enemy is my friend. We did not call the Taliban or Al Qaeda ‘terrorists' then, but 'freedom-fighters.’ None other than Ronald Reagan called them that and he even said that about their leader – non other than Osama bin-Laden. Yes, the U.S. not only funded but also provided the military fire-power to those “freedom-fighters.” Those very U.S. supplied rifles and bombs are now being used to blow up young American men and women in Iraq.
The invasion of Iraq and the continued Iraq war has not made us safer. On the contrary: It has encouraged a revitalization of Islamic fundamentalist terrorists. 3,000 United States citizens where murdered by Islamic fundamentalists. The response by the Bush Administration has taken the nation of Iraq, uninvolved in the attack on America, away from the secular socialist regime previously in power, and handed it over to . . . Islamic fundamentalists. Understand this: The Bush Administration has rewarded Islamic fundamentalists by turning over to them a major Mideast nation not previously in their possession.
President George Bush did a marvelous job of directing and mobilizing the country after 9-11. He should be praised for that job well done. He squandered that good-will however.
The Bush administration has been wrong about every claim they’ve made concern Iraq and the Iraq war. Prior to the invasion they claimed:
Iraq has Weapons of Mass Destruction: Wrong
Iraq supplied resources to Al-Qaeda: Wrong
Iraq was involved in 9/11: Wrong
There will be very few casualties: Wrong
It will cost less than one billion dollars: Wrong
It will be paid for with Iraqi oil: Wrong
They will great us as liberators with flower and candy: Wrong
We’ll be out in a few weeks: Wrong
Every claim the Bush Administration made prior to the invasion was wrong yet, some continue to believe the continued claims made by this administration now. Why are we to believe them now when they have not been right yet?
I’ll state this is as plainly as I can. I believe the Iraq war is one of the biggest blunders in the history of the United States. It was wrong before it began. It was wrong when it started. It continues to be wrong. There are more terrorists in Iraq today than there ever was under Hussein. The war bill is looking upwards of a TRILLION dollars and thousands of lives. It has destroyed a country. It has created hostilities throughout the world against the United States. The invasion has been the greatest recruiting tool the terrorists have ever had. Combine that with the thousands who will never forget that American arms killed their loved ones, and we have created virtually a whole new army of terrorists by invading Iraq. The planning for a post-war Iraq by this administration was horrendous -- there wasn’t any.
One successful outcome of the Iraq was is the creation of new set of millionaires. War profiteering is very big business. No bid contracts to connected political insiders has created a whole industry. Trust me on this: The war contractors do not want to end the invasion. The continued presence there will continue to line the pocket books of millionaires for years to come.
Now, some Christians want to continue to support the Iraq war as if there was no other option and as if Jesus himself was behind the invasion. In Jesus’ day his followers wanted Jesus to do something about the Romans. The Romans. Oppressors. Pagans. The Enemy. His followers expected Jesus to lead the revolt, to lash out, to defend them. They nearly demanded it of him. Jesus always refused. He taught that there is a better way. His ways are not the ways of this world. The people could not hear him. Today, are we like the followers of Jesus of old? Or can we hear the new message? Jesus came with a new teaching, a new message. Do we hear it?
We will never fulfill the true meaning of Jesus’ teachings as long as we look at war as being the only path to peace. As long as we see war as the “only” way, we will never see the Jesus way.
There may be little in today’s world that is more important than understanding war and the reasons for war. We live in a world of war. Christians from all walks of life, throughout the world, have differing opinions on war, and specifically this war – the Iraq war.
For over a thousand years there has been a doctrine and Christian definition of what constitutes a just war. The Christian doctrine of a just war states that there should be an act of aggression against a country to justify a war. Does the Iraq classify as a just war?
Let it be very clear: There has never been an act of aggression against the United States by Iraq. We are 6,000 miles from that land. The doctrine of a just war states that all efforts at negotiations must be exhausted. There never was any effort of negotiation between the United States and Iraq. The only purported negotiation was a declaration for Sadam Hussein to destroy his weapons of mass destruction. We now know that he did not have any weapons of mass destruction. What was he to destroy?
Some have believed, and still believe that Saddam Hussein was involved in the tragedy of 9/11. Saddam Hussein was not responsible for 9/11. He and Iraq did not physically attack or harm America or its people. President Bush told us that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction and he and Iraq were an imminent threat to America's security. Yet Iraq had shown no hostile intent, not fired a missile or a gun at America, nor had any troops even come near our shore. Even if Saddam Hussein had mass destruction weapons, he had never made a hostile move in recent years toward America, nor had he even threatened us. According to true Christian theology of a just war we did not have a just reason to attack and go to war with Iraq.
I believe the Iraq war is an unjust war. The United States did not have the right to destroy Saddam Hussein and kill his people just because we suspected he might eventually attack the U.S. The preemptive strike policy Bush has established is both unholy and not Christian. This is not new -- many pagan countries embrace it. No aggression is necessary to declare war, only suspicion. This is not true self-defense. When we go to war under this policy we are the aggressor and murderers. Also, we must ask this question -- who made us the judge over other nations to decide which ruler needs to fall? Who made us the policemen of the world? This is an extremely arrogant policy, which sets us up above other nations. The more we will attack other nations under this policy, the more the wrath of the world's countries will be toward us.
We have attacked a county halfway around the world that was no threat to us. We have justified this war by saying, "Saddam Hussein was an evil ruler", "the people needed to be freed from oppression", "Iraq was a threat to the U.S.," etc. But whatever the reasons, they do not justify this war. 9/11 does not give us the right to attack and destroy nations just because we have been attacked and are afraid to be attacked again. The invasion of Iraq and the continued presence there makes us no better than Saddam Hussein or Bin Laden.
Had Timothy McVeigh bombed the CN Tower in Toronto instead of Oklahoma City, would that give justification for Canada to invade the U.S. in response? Suppose instead they had invaded Mexico, explaining it was in the same "part of the world." Would this have been justice?
This is what the United States has down in the invasion of Iraq. In failing to catch those responsible for the murder of three thousand innocent Americans, instead The U.S. lashed out indiscriminately at persons of like ethnicity and faith. Bin Laden walks free while hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis uninvolved in his crimes have paid the ultimate penalty.
Politics creates strange bedfellows. When the Soviet Union stormed into their Afghanistan quagmire, the U.S. funded the Islamic extremists fighting them, not out of identifiable empathy but on the principle that the enemy of my enemy is my friend. We did not call the Taliban or Al Qaeda ‘terrorists' then, but 'freedom-fighters.’ None other than Ronald Reagan called them that and he even said that about their leader – non other than Osama bin-Laden. Yes, the U.S. not only funded but also provided the military fire-power to those “freedom-fighters.” Those very U.S. supplied rifles and bombs are now being used to blow up young American men and women in Iraq.
The invasion of Iraq and the continued Iraq war has not made us safer. On the contrary: It has encouraged a revitalization of Islamic fundamentalist terrorists. 3,000 United States citizens where murdered by Islamic fundamentalists. The response by the Bush Administration has taken the nation of Iraq, uninvolved in the attack on America, away from the secular socialist regime previously in power, and handed it over to . . . Islamic fundamentalists. Understand this: The Bush Administration has rewarded Islamic fundamentalists by turning over to them a major Mideast nation not previously in their possession.
President George Bush did a marvelous job of directing and mobilizing the country after 9-11. He should be praised for that job well done. He squandered that good-will however.
The Bush administration has been wrong about every claim they’ve made concern Iraq and the Iraq war. Prior to the invasion they claimed:
Iraq has Weapons of Mass Destruction: Wrong
Iraq supplied resources to Al-Qaeda: Wrong
Iraq was involved in 9/11: Wrong
There will be very few casualties: Wrong
It will cost less than one billion dollars: Wrong
It will be paid for with Iraqi oil: Wrong
They will great us as liberators with flower and candy: Wrong
We’ll be out in a few weeks: Wrong
Every claim the Bush Administration made prior to the invasion was wrong yet, some continue to believe the continued claims made by this administration now. Why are we to believe them now when they have not been right yet?
I’ll state this is as plainly as I can. I believe the Iraq war is one of the biggest blunders in the history of the United States. It was wrong before it began. It was wrong when it started. It continues to be wrong. There are more terrorists in Iraq today than there ever was under Hussein. The war bill is looking upwards of a TRILLION dollars and thousands of lives. It has destroyed a country. It has created hostilities throughout the world against the United States. The invasion has been the greatest recruiting tool the terrorists have ever had. Combine that with the thousands who will never forget that American arms killed their loved ones, and we have created virtually a whole new army of terrorists by invading Iraq. The planning for a post-war Iraq by this administration was horrendous -- there wasn’t any.
One successful outcome of the Iraq was is the creation of new set of millionaires. War profiteering is very big business. No bid contracts to connected political insiders has created a whole industry. Trust me on this: The war contractors do not want to end the invasion. The continued presence there will continue to line the pocket books of millionaires for years to come.
Now, some Christians want to continue to support the Iraq war as if there was no other option and as if Jesus himself was behind the invasion. In Jesus’ day his followers wanted Jesus to do something about the Romans. The Romans. Oppressors. Pagans. The Enemy. His followers expected Jesus to lead the revolt, to lash out, to defend them. They nearly demanded it of him. Jesus always refused. He taught that there is a better way. His ways are not the ways of this world. The people could not hear him. Today, are we like the followers of Jesus of old? Or can we hear the new message? Jesus came with a new teaching, a new message. Do we hear it?
We will never fulfill the true meaning of Jesus’ teachings as long as we look at war as being the only path to peace. As long as we see war as the “only” way, we will never see the Jesus way.
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Dating Safety
Dating and Meeting Safety:
There are some simply things you can do to help you stay safe when meeting someone from a online Christian Dating dating site.
Do not give out your phone number until you are very comfortable in doing so. Listen to your inner voice.
Do not give out your email address until you are comfortable doing so. If your email address has your name in it, you might want to consider getting one of the anonymous free email accounts such as hotmail.com or yahoo.com. Or best yet, use the actual mail system provided by the service.
Agree to meet in a public place for the first time.
When meeting for the first time, tell someone else of your plans. Agree to check in with that person at a stated time.
Do not arrange a full fledged date for the first meeting. Meet for a cup of coffee or a coke in a public area..
Agree that the meeting should last for about 30 minutes or less. At the end of that time, if you are feeling comfortable you can extend the meeting. Otherwise, say your goodbyes as you have previously agreed to. This way you if you discover that you are uncomfortable and it is not going as expected you do not have to sit through an entire date.
For the first meeting, drive separate cars. Do NOT have him/her pick you up at your home or vice versa. Meet at the designated location.
If all goes well, agree to do it again for slightly longer period.
Only when you are comfortable do you agree to a full date.
There are some simply things you can do to help you stay safe when meeting someone from a online Christian Dating dating site.
Do not give out your phone number until you are very comfortable in doing so. Listen to your inner voice.
Do not give out your email address until you are comfortable doing so. If your email address has your name in it, you might want to consider getting one of the anonymous free email accounts such as hotmail.com or yahoo.com. Or best yet, use the actual mail system provided by the service.
Agree to meet in a public place for the first time.
When meeting for the first time, tell someone else of your plans. Agree to check in with that person at a stated time.
Do not arrange a full fledged date for the first meeting. Meet for a cup of coffee or a coke in a public area..
Agree that the meeting should last for about 30 minutes or less. At the end of that time, if you are feeling comfortable you can extend the meeting. Otherwise, say your goodbyes as you have previously agreed to. This way you if you discover that you are uncomfortable and it is not going as expected you do not have to sit through an entire date.
For the first meeting, drive separate cars. Do NOT have him/her pick you up at your home or vice versa. Meet at the designated location.
If all goes well, agree to do it again for slightly longer period.
Only when you are comfortable do you agree to a full date.
Monday, December 24, 2007
Poo on the Floor
There was poo on the floor.
Is there a better way to say that? Perhaps. But let’s be honest.
The place stunk. It was filthy. Smelly. Dirty. It was unsanitary. The air was filled with maddening, disgusting flies. It wasn’t fit for humans. I’ts why the animals were there.
Animals. Not friendly puppies and kittens, but cows, sheep, pigs, livestock. It was a barn. Actually a barn by today’s standards is probably an upgrade. Been in one lately? Cover your nose from the smell? Did you step gingerly to avoid stepping in the dung?
How would you like to eat dinner in there? Sit? Sleep?
How about having a baby?
If you were going to choose where to have a baby where would you choose? A nice, warm, sanitary hospital room with friendly, helpful nurses and doctors to help? A hospital with sanitized emergency instruments? Or even at home in the safety of your comfortable bed with the security of family and a mid-wife close by?
Is there any place worse to have a baby than a barn?
Why would anyone choose a dirty, smelly, unsanitary… barn. Yes, that is what is was. A place to house the animals. If you did have to have your baby in a barn, would you be excited and tell all your friends? “Hey, how wonderful! I had a baby in a barn next to the pigs and the cows!”
Or, would you feel humiliated. How lowly. What would your friends think?
"And they laid him in a manger." A manger. A manger is what the animals were fed from. Is that right? Did they really do that? Would you? This is not the cute, cuddly scenes we see in the Macy's store window. This was real life. A baby, in a barn, laying in the animals feeding area.
Doesn’t make much sense then does it that God, choosing to come to this earth and live with us would choose such a place to start out. God, the King of Kings, creator of the universe, omnipetent… gets born next to… the sheep and goats.
How humiliating.
Shouldn't he have been in the Presidential Palace? The Plaza Suite?
Who would have thought? They were looking for a king and missed the King. They were looking for a prince, a ruler, a powerful man, a mighty man, a rich man. They would never have thought.
Christmas. Santa? New toys? Reindeer?
What is the real meaning? What are you looking for this Christmas? Or Who are you looking for? Find it? Find Him? Maybe we should all take another look.
Is there a better way to say that? Perhaps. But let’s be honest.
The place stunk. It was filthy. Smelly. Dirty. It was unsanitary. The air was filled with maddening, disgusting flies. It wasn’t fit for humans. I’ts why the animals were there.
Animals. Not friendly puppies and kittens, but cows, sheep, pigs, livestock. It was a barn. Actually a barn by today’s standards is probably an upgrade. Been in one lately? Cover your nose from the smell? Did you step gingerly to avoid stepping in the dung?
How would you like to eat dinner in there? Sit? Sleep?
How about having a baby?
If you were going to choose where to have a baby where would you choose? A nice, warm, sanitary hospital room with friendly, helpful nurses and doctors to help? A hospital with sanitized emergency instruments? Or even at home in the safety of your comfortable bed with the security of family and a mid-wife close by?
Is there any place worse to have a baby than a barn?
Why would anyone choose a dirty, smelly, unsanitary… barn. Yes, that is what is was. A place to house the animals. If you did have to have your baby in a barn, would you be excited and tell all your friends? “Hey, how wonderful! I had a baby in a barn next to the pigs and the cows!”
Or, would you feel humiliated. How lowly. What would your friends think?
"And they laid him in a manger." A manger. A manger is what the animals were fed from. Is that right? Did they really do that? Would you? This is not the cute, cuddly scenes we see in the Macy's store window. This was real life. A baby, in a barn, laying in the animals feeding area.
Doesn’t make much sense then does it that God, choosing to come to this earth and live with us would choose such a place to start out. God, the King of Kings, creator of the universe, omnipetent… gets born next to… the sheep and goats.
How humiliating.
Shouldn't he have been in the Presidential Palace? The Plaza Suite?
Who would have thought? They were looking for a king and missed the King. They were looking for a prince, a ruler, a powerful man, a mighty man, a rich man. They would never have thought.
Christmas. Santa? New toys? Reindeer?
What is the real meaning? What are you looking for this Christmas? Or Who are you looking for? Find it? Find Him? Maybe we should all take another look.
Monday, November 05, 2007
Free Christian Dating Site
Are you looking for Christian singles with the same beliefs, ideas, and views as you?
SingleC is a great free Christian dating site made up of Christian singles all in search of Christian dating, pen pals, love and eventually marriage. This site allows Christian singles to meet and greet other like minded singles that share similar Christian values and beliefs.
The opportunities are endless! Also, you can choose to make your Christian relationship as serious as you like, or even as friendly as you like!
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Christian Love
Christian Love
Christian Singles involved in online Christian dating services are in desperate need of a reminder to pay attention to what is love, and what is not. The most common misconception members have is that love is feelings and an excitement caused by another single Christian's presence. it is most likely to be infatuation, lust, and self-indulgence. The experience that many Christian singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite.
There is excitement from a new Christian dating relationship, or just in meeting other single Christians of the opposite sex. This thrill is not love, but the human drive to be connected with another.
Christian singles need to realize that love is not always fun. The real test of Christian love comes when sacrafices are shared and used to deepen the relationship. If a couple has not have any challenges in their relationship, they have not arrived at the cornerstone to love. It is in the hardships that love begins to mold the two into a real Christian relationship.
Love is a commitment built upon trust, proven over time to build compatibility and mutually serving interest and growth. It seeks the best possible conditions for the other person’s benefit, sometimes at one’s own expense. It is not selfish, crying for attention, and complaining when things do not go their way.(Corinthians chapter 13)
Meet Christian Singles at the Single Christian Network
Christian Singles involved in online Christian dating services are in desperate need of a reminder to pay attention to what is love, and what is not. The most common misconception members have is that love is feelings and an excitement caused by another single Christian's presence. it is most likely to be infatuation, lust, and self-indulgence. The experience that many Christian singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite.
There is excitement from a new Christian dating relationship, or just in meeting other single Christians of the opposite sex. This thrill is not love, but the human drive to be connected with another.
Christian singles need to realize that love is not always fun. The real test of Christian love comes when sacrafices are shared and used to deepen the relationship. If a couple has not have any challenges in their relationship, they have not arrived at the cornerstone to love. It is in the hardships that love begins to mold the two into a real Christian relationship.
Love is a commitment built upon trust, proven over time to build compatibility and mutually serving interest and growth. It seeks the best possible conditions for the other person’s benefit, sometimes at one’s own expense. It is not selfish, crying for attention, and complaining when things do not go their way.(Corinthians chapter 13)
Meet Christian Singles at the Single Christian Network
Thursday, October 18, 2007
More Success Stories
Everyday somes enters into a successfull relationship. Whithout fail, we receive a success story every single day. Here are just a few of them:
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"I just wanted to tell you that this by far is the most effective site I've ever joined. I've gotten quite a few halos and emails in the less than three weeks I've been here. That's never happened before in any dating or friendship site I've joined, Christian or secular. I really am enjoying myself and the friends I'm connecting with." C.S.
"The site has been a blessing to me, and I have found the perfect person for me. I was just about to give up on the internet as a source of finding someone when I met the most wonderful man I have ever known. Thank you!" K.R.
"I found someone the first time we connected. We are neighbors and did not know it. Thanks."L.S.
"Thanks to SingleC I found my soulmate! Thank you and God bless you." R.A .
"I'm so thankful for this site. Thru this site I found the person that GOD reserved for me. I would like to switch off my ad-profile from this site. Thank you so much and MORE POWER TO YOU GUYS!" M.L.
"I would like to confirm my cancelation with SingleC, because I found my soul mate thought this Website. Thanks and God bless you." R.A.
"I would like to let you know I've met someone special on your site. Thank you for the service you offer Christians." P.D.
"Praise God. I have found the love of my life. Thank you for all you have done. God bless." S.M.
"I have found the love of my life. God chose to use this method for whatever reason and we are just greatful that it has happened. We are CRAZY in love and plan to marry in the near future. Thank You so Much." R.R.
"I got my soulmate from GOD through your link here. I am very happy with him. Thank you for that. GBU" L.J.
"Hello!! I wanted to write and tell you how God used your site to bring my husband and I together! He was going to cancel his account the very day I found his profile and wrote to him, but he said the Lord told him to leave it on a while longer. I had been very disappointed in other sites, and after prayer, felt strongly impressed of the Lord to re-subscribe to SingleC. We began corresponding in Feb. and by Easter knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the Lord had brought us together to join our paths as one! We talked every night 4-6 hours!! We met June 5th, were officially engaged June 7th and married Aug 7th!. We had both waited a long time - I was 33 and my husband was 37 when we got married. The right man is definitely worth waiting for, no matter how long the wait!! We had a dream 10-day honeymoon, and just celebrated our anniversary! The Lord has blessed us with two beautiful daughters. I stand amazed at the hand of the Lord in orchestrating our romance, and am so thankful for SingleC!" B.C.
"I met my girlfriend on SingleC.com, and will be popping the question next week... Thank you!!! I will definitely let you know how it turns out." D.J.
"We are married now. We met on your site in June, got married in November. Thank you SingleC." J.D.
"I joined SingleC a year ago and from that experience, met the woman who is now my fiance." K.S.
"I have great news! I have met another member and we are officially an item you could say. We have agreed to explore what God has in store for us. It is truly a miracle how we met on this site, and see a very bright and long future together. I want to thank everyone for all the help since I've been a member. But at this time, I feel the need to cancel my membership so I can stay honest to her." B.K.
"Keep up the great work. (I encourage people who are trial members to subscribe!) I think you all have the best site. May God continue to bless you all. "D.M."
"Could you cancel my membership? I have met many wonderful people, and one lady in particular who I have a special relationship with, thanks for maintaining a high moral character in your work!" N.L
"I met my husband on SingleC and there was just a little article about us in the Cincinnati Enquirer this past Sunday mentioning how we met on SingleC. We met in July of 2003. We are very grateful to SingleC and we have a terrific marriage! Thanks, SingleC - we are truly blessed and you were a huge part of that!" C.T.
"I was skeptical, but then I met someone on your site and she is a beautiful Christian women and I could not be happier." P.S.
"Just wanted you to know that in simply one week...God brought the answer to my prayers for a Godly man through your site...I will gladly share about it with anyone who is searching!" B.N.
"I just wanted to tell you that this by far is the most effective site I've ever joined. I've gotten quite a few halos and emails in the less than three weeks I've been here. That's never happened before in any dating or friendship site I've joined, Christian or secular. I really am enjoying myself and the friends I'm connecting with." C.S.
"The site has been a blessing to me, and I have found the perfect person for me. I was just about to give up on the internet as a source of finding someone when I met the most wonderful man I have ever known. Thank you!" K.R.
"I found someone the first time we connected. We are neighbors and did not know it. Thanks."L.S.
"Thanks to SingleC I found my soulmate! Thank you and God bless you." R.A .
"I'm so thankful for this site. Thru this site I found the person that GOD reserved for me. I would like to switch off my ad-profile from this site. Thank you so much and MORE POWER TO YOU GUYS!" M.L.
"I would like to confirm my cancelation with SingleC, because I found my soul mate thought this Website. Thanks and God bless you." R.A.
"I would like to let you know I've met someone special on your site. Thank you for the service you offer Christians." P.D.
"Praise God. I have found the love of my life. Thank you for all you have done. God bless." S.M.
"I have found the love of my life. God chose to use this method for whatever reason and we are just greatful that it has happened. We are CRAZY in love and plan to marry in the near future. Thank You so Much." R.R.
"I got my soulmate from GOD through your link here. I am very happy with him. Thank you for that. GBU" L.J.
"Hello!! I wanted to write and tell you how God used your site to bring my husband and I together! He was going to cancel his account the very day I found his profile and wrote to him, but he said the Lord told him to leave it on a while longer. I had been very disappointed in other sites, and after prayer, felt strongly impressed of the Lord to re-subscribe to SingleC. We began corresponding in Feb. and by Easter knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the Lord had brought us together to join our paths as one! We talked every night 4-6 hours!! We met June 5th, were officially engaged June 7th and married Aug 7th!. We had both waited a long time - I was 33 and my husband was 37 when we got married. The right man is definitely worth waiting for, no matter how long the wait!! We had a dream 10-day honeymoon, and just celebrated our anniversary! The Lord has blessed us with two beautiful daughters. I stand amazed at the hand of the Lord in orchestrating our romance, and am so thankful for SingleC!" B.C.
"I met my girlfriend on SingleC.com, and will be popping the question next week... Thank you!!! I will definitely let you know how it turns out." D.J.
"We are married now. We met on your site in June, got married in November. Thank you SingleC." J.D.
"I joined SingleC a year ago and from that experience, met the woman who is now my fiance." K.S.
"I have great news! I have met another member and we are officially an item you could say. We have agreed to explore what God has in store for us. It is truly a miracle how we met on this site, and see a very bright and long future together. I want to thank everyone for all the help since I've been a member. But at this time, I feel the need to cancel my membership so I can stay honest to her." B.K.
"Keep up the great work. (I encourage people who are trial members to subscribe!) I think you all have the best site. May God continue to bless you all. "D.M."
"Could you cancel my membership? I have met many wonderful people, and one lady in particular who I have a special relationship with, thanks for maintaining a high moral character in your work!" N.L
"I met my husband on SingleC and there was just a little article about us in the Cincinnati Enquirer this past Sunday mentioning how we met on SingleC. We met in July of 2003. We are very grateful to SingleC and we have a terrific marriage! Thanks, SingleC - we are truly blessed and you were a huge part of that!" C.T.
"I was skeptical, but then I met someone on your site and she is a beautiful Christian women and I could not be happier." P.S.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Be Safe. Don't be Scammed
While we would like to think that everyone that would frequent a Christian site would be honest and trustworthy, we know that there are those out there who are dishonest.
First, be aware of the most common scam with internet dating. It is generally someone pretending to be a foreign specialist working in Nigeria, UK or some other country. After they establish some quick correspondence with you, they fall in love -- nearly over night. They ask for money for a visa to fly to see you or they ask for money for a plane ticket. Or they ask for money for their sick relatives, or some other tragic event. Or they will tell you that their employer pays them with Money Orders and they can't cash them in Nigeria. They will send you the Money Orders and ask you to deposit them into your bank account and then wire the money to them via Western Union. Usually they say to keep some money for your trouble. Needless to say, those Money Orders are no good, and not even worth the paper they're printed on.
There are several ways to spot these scammers. Here are some things to look for...
They are over eager to get your email address.
They often use language such as ""Hello Dearest," and "Dear Lovely,"
They might claim to be a doctor or engineer, yet there will be misspelled words scattered about.
They use words like "mum" for "mom." This is normal in the UK and other places, but if they are claiming to be in the USA then it is a red flag.
They often say their parent(s) died and they are an orphan.
The profile says they are in the USA - but the first note you get says they are on "business" in Nigeria or the UK.
They seem to fall in love with you overnight after just a couple of emails.
And, of course... the biggest red flag is when they ask for money.
So, how do you stay safe. Here are some suggestions.
First: Use our mail system. Nobody can know anything about you other than what you tell them. Use our mail system until you are 100% comfortable with the other party.
Do not give out your email address or home phone number to anyone until you, again, are 100% comfortable.
Ask us! We have ways to check where someone is logging in from. If in doubt - ask. You can ask here.
Look for descrepencies. Do they claim to be a doctor but have trouble spelling? Do they change their story between messages?
Never, ever, ever... send money to anyone. Did we say "never, ever" yet? Once more... Never, ever, ever send anyone any money. OK?
Get comfortable. Take your time. A real relationship takes time. Don't be in a hurry. Be patient. If that person is the special one they will be here tomorrow.
Did we mention the money thing yet? Don't send money. Ever.
So what we doing to keep you safe?
We review every profile that comes through. We check every IP address. If the application says USA and the IP address shows somewhere else, then that application is deleted and never processed and that IP address is blocked.
We are currently blocking several countries from even accessing our website. That includes some African countries and some from East Asia.
Having said that... we do make mistakes. Some applications do slip through that we missed. So be safe... ask us for verification of anyone and we can re-check. Use our mail system. Ask questions. Look for descrepencies.
And, of course... Don't send anyone money. If anyone asks... report it.
First, be aware of the most common scam with internet dating. It is generally someone pretending to be a foreign specialist working in Nigeria, UK or some other country. After they establish some quick correspondence with you, they fall in love -- nearly over night. They ask for money for a visa to fly to see you or they ask for money for a plane ticket. Or they ask for money for their sick relatives, or some other tragic event. Or they will tell you that their employer pays them with Money Orders and they can't cash them in Nigeria. They will send you the Money Orders and ask you to deposit them into your bank account and then wire the money to them via Western Union. Usually they say to keep some money for your trouble. Needless to say, those Money Orders are no good, and not even worth the paper they're printed on.
There are several ways to spot these scammers. Here are some things to look for...
They are over eager to get your email address.
They often use language such as ""Hello Dearest," and "Dear Lovely,"
They might claim to be a doctor or engineer, yet there will be misspelled words scattered about.
They use words like "mum" for "mom." This is normal in the UK and other places, but if they are claiming to be in the USA then it is a red flag.
They often say their parent(s) died and they are an orphan.
The profile says they are in the USA - but the first note you get says they are on "business" in Nigeria or the UK.
They seem to fall in love with you overnight after just a couple of emails.
And, of course... the biggest red flag is when they ask for money.
So, how do you stay safe. Here are some suggestions.
First: Use our mail system. Nobody can know anything about you other than what you tell them. Use our mail system until you are 100% comfortable with the other party.
Do not give out your email address or home phone number to anyone until you, again, are 100% comfortable.
Ask us! We have ways to check where someone is logging in from. If in doubt - ask. You can ask here.
Look for descrepencies. Do they claim to be a doctor but have trouble spelling? Do they change their story between messages?
Never, ever, ever... send money to anyone. Did we say "never, ever" yet? Once more... Never, ever, ever send anyone any money. OK?
Get comfortable. Take your time. A real relationship takes time. Don't be in a hurry. Be patient. If that person is the special one they will be here tomorrow.
Did we mention the money thing yet? Don't send money. Ever.
So what we doing to keep you safe?
We review every profile that comes through. We check every IP address. If the application says USA and the IP address shows somewhere else, then that application is deleted and never processed and that IP address is blocked.
We are currently blocking several countries from even accessing our website. That includes some African countries and some from East Asia.
Having said that... we do make mistakes. Some applications do slip through that we missed. So be safe... ask us for verification of anyone and we can re-check. Use our mail system. Ask questions. Look for descrepencies.
And, of course... Don't send anyone money. If anyone asks... report it.
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