Friday, August 15, 2008

So you’ve decided to try Christian Personals. Great! Now, lets think safety.

Most online Christian personals, dating sites and jave some online safety dating tips, However, since none of these Christian dating sites can 100% guarantee that your next date will not be a scammer.

Tip 1

Find some Christian friends who would be willing to offer dating tip advice and accountability. You can be accountable to them, and them to you. On your first meeting with your new date make sure your friends know where you are and who are you are with. Arrange a phone call at a specified time so that they know you are OK.

Tip 2

Take thing slow. Use the online services for as long as you need to get to know someone. Use email, the chat room etc. Take your time. If someone is pushing you for private information too soon, let that be red flag. Slow is good.

We'll add more safety tips in the next post.

Be sure to visit a very safe, warm, comfortable Christian singles site.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

11 year old healed

11-Year-Old Girl Diagnosed With Massive Brain Tumor Healed after Prayer and Laying on of Hands
Teresa Neumann (August 9, 2008)
"He said it's got to be a mistake, it has to be. We are going to schedule another test, there is no way its just gone and just the whole time he is stuttering and there is just this look on his face like I don't understand. I don't know. We did another one and it was gone and his words were it was truly a miracle, this has to be the act of God."
(Tyler, Texas)—KLTV News reports that 11-year-old Kayla Knight has received a miraculous healing after an MRI showed a tumor that was covering nearly one-fourth of her brain.

"We prayed," said her mother Amy, who described the severe headaches her daughter had been experiencing.
"We both hit our knees and we were praying. That was actually on a Wednesday so when we got to church we had a good 30 people or more lay hands on her and it just.... you could feel God. I can't say we prayed as much before. I mean we did...but not like this. Not like we do now."
Two days later, doctors sent Kayla to Baylor Hospital in Dallas where she had another MRI. Kayla's mother said the doctor told her the tumor had disappeared. (Photo: KLTV 7 News)
"He said it's got to be a mistake, it has to be. We are going to schedule another test, there is no way its just gone and just the whole time he is stuttering and there is just this look on his face like 'I don't understand. I don't know.' We did another one and it was gone and his words were it was truly a miracle, this has to be the act of God," said Amy.
The single mother added, "I have never been as comfortable in my faith as I am right now. The best way to describe it, I was a mediocre Christian. To be honest. I mean I went to church, the mundane thing. You do this and you do that and you think, 'Okay, I'm going to Heaven.' Looking back now, I don't know that I would have. I know I will now. I know this has opened my eyes and I think maybe God used that to make us better Believers. To make us fully depend on Him."
Click on the link provided to watch a video of Kayla and her mother explaining her miracle.
Source: Clint Yeatts - KLTV News

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Monday, June 16, 2008

Should a Woman Take a Man's Last Name?

I would not mind in the least if she kept her family name. In fact, I would respect it and honor it.

This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant.

It has to do with lineage.

Name change for a woman was created originally because women were property. I could buy a wife for 10 sheep and 3 goats. If she was really sturdy and produce a lot of heirs it would be 15 sheep and 4 cows. And so, as my property she takes my name. She is "mine."

That is no longer true. Today, she is not my property. She is my companion.

I will give the same respect to the lineage of my wife as I will to my own family lineage. Her roots are no less important than mine. Her mother and father are no less honorable than mine. And thus if she wishes to keep her family name I would respect that, and even honor it.

Please note again: This has nothing to do with honoring a particular relationship within the marriage covenant itself. It is honoring lineage.

And... we should all respect the decisions made by a particular couple. Ever situation may be different.
If my future wife ihas been divorced, I would not want her to keep the name of her former husband. Though, if she has children with that man, then that has to be taken into consideration. It may be best for the children that they have the same name as their mother. And I would do in that situation what I thought was best for them - not me.

Husbands: Would you really lay down your life for your wife as instructed? If so - what value is a name? Give up YOUR name for your wife. Would you?

The situations could be complex and there is no simple ya or nay answer here.

My 2cents.

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Inspiration

The bible is historical as well as inspirational.

What I mean by that is that there is an actual historical record there. This does not mean that the history is the aways the way it SHOULD be, but the rather way it WAS. It is the record of the success and failures of a group of Hebrews over a long period of time.

The history shows the failings of many people. The history includes cultural traditions. The history includes wars that should not have been. The history includes the bad as well as the good. So, having said that, it is wise that we be careful in saying "well they did it this way in the bible so...." We don't carry every tradition of the Hebrew world with us into today's world. We don't wear robes today because they did in the old testament. We must be careful to separate the historical from the inspirational.

God, I believe, respected the culture of the people He was speaking to. He spoke to them in a way that they could understand. God didn't tell Moses how to conduct electricity through copper (a conductor)instead of cold glass (an insulator) because even the concept of electricity was unfathomable. God spoke to them within the framework of their understanding. God didn't speak to Moses in "Spanish."

What God is saying to you today is more important than than what or how they did things in a Hebrew world, coming out of slavery, and for the most part, very uneducated and ignorant. God spoke to them in a way they could understand. Gave them some rules to help them and let them grow. And grow they did.

Once, I taught my children not to touch matches. "They are dangerous." "Never ever play with these!" That is what I said. I was right.
I told them "Never cross the street without an adult to help you! It's dangerous!" I meant it.
I told them those things because I loved them.
Today, they use matches. They cross the street. They grew up.

So will God speak to you.

Saturday, March 15, 2008

Iraq War

The ideas below are mine. This doesn’t mean I didn’t plagiarize. Far from it. I copied from various sources, one of which is the Ron Paul website. Some sentences below are word for word from there. If I had better writing skills, or more time, I might have found a way to make every word my own, but, alas, I confess. But what you see below is mine in that I take full responsibility for posting it here. If an idea is written below it means I am in agreement with it even if I didn’t coin the original phrase. The ideas below are for your discussion and not intended to be for your approval or disapproval.

There may be little in today’s world that is more important than understanding war and the reasons for war. We live in a world of war. Christians from all walks of life, throughout the world, have differing opinions on war, and specifically this war – the Iraq war.

For over a thousand years there has been a doctrine and Christian definition of what constitutes a just war. The Christian doctrine of a just war states that there should be an act of aggression against a country to justify a war. Does the Iraq classify as a just war?

Let it be very clear: There has never been an act of aggression against the United States by Iraq. We are 6,000 miles from that land. The doctrine of a just war states that all efforts at negotiations must be exhausted. There never was any effort of negotiation between the United States and Iraq. The only purported negotiation was a declaration for Sadam Hussein to destroy his weapons of mass destruction. We now know that he did not have any weapons of mass destruction. What was he to destroy?

Some have believed, and still believe that Saddam Hussein was involved in the tragedy of 9/11. Saddam Hussein was not responsible for 9/11. He and Iraq did not physically attack or harm America or its people. President Bush told us that Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction and he and Iraq were an imminent threat to America's security. Yet Iraq had shown no hostile intent, not fired a missile or a gun at America, nor had any troops even come near our shore. Even if Saddam Hussein had mass destruction weapons, he had never made a hostile move in recent years toward America, nor had he even threatened us. According to true Christian theology of a just war we did not have a just reason to attack and go to war with Iraq.

I believe the Iraq war is an unjust war. The United States did not have the right to destroy Saddam Hussein and kill his people just because we suspected he might eventually attack the U.S. The preemptive strike policy Bush has established is both unholy and not Christian. This is not new -- many pagan countries embrace it. No aggression is necessary to declare war, only suspicion. This is not true self-defense. When we go to war under this policy we are the aggressor and murderers. Also, we must ask this question -- who made us the judge over other nations to decide which ruler needs to fall? Who made us the policemen of the world? This is an extremely arrogant policy, which sets us up above other nations. The more we will attack other nations under this policy, the more the wrath of the world's countries will be toward us.


We have attacked a county halfway around the world that was no threat to us. We have justified this war by saying, "Saddam Hussein was an evil ruler", "the people needed to be freed from oppression", "Iraq was a threat to the U.S.," etc. But whatever the reasons, they do not justify this war. 9/11 does not give us the right to attack and destroy nations just because we have been attacked and are afraid to be attacked again. The invasion of Iraq and the continued presence there makes us no better than Saddam Hussein or Bin Laden.

Had Timothy McVeigh bombed the CN Tower in Toronto instead of Oklahoma City, would that give justification for Canada to invade the U.S. in response? Suppose instead they had invaded Mexico, explaining it was in the same "part of the world." Would this have been justice?

This is what the United States has down in the invasion of Iraq. In failing to catch those responsible for the murder of three thousand innocent Americans, instead The U.S. lashed out indiscriminately at persons of like ethnicity and faith. Bin Laden walks free while hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqis uninvolved in his crimes have paid the ultimate penalty.

Politics creates strange bedfellows. When the Soviet Union stormed into their Afghanistan quagmire, the U.S. funded the Islamic extremists fighting them, not out of identifiable empathy but on the principle that the enemy of my enemy is my friend. We did not call the Taliban or Al Qaeda ‘terrorists' then, but 'freedom-fighters.’ None other than Ronald Reagan called them that and he even said that about their leader – non other than Osama bin-Laden. Yes, the U.S. not only funded but also provided the military fire-power to those “freedom-fighters.” Those very U.S. supplied rifles and bombs are now being used to blow up young American men and women in Iraq.

The invasion of Iraq and the continued Iraq war has not made us safer. On the contrary: It has encouraged a revitalization of Islamic fundamentalist terrorists. 3,000 United States citizens where murdered by Islamic fundamentalists. The response by the Bush Administration has taken the nation of Iraq, uninvolved in the attack on America, away from the secular socialist regime previously in power, and handed it over to . . . Islamic fundamentalists. Understand this: The Bush Administration has rewarded Islamic fundamentalists by turning over to them a major Mideast nation not previously in their possession.
President George Bush did a marvelous job of directing and mobilizing the country after 9-11. He should be praised for that job well done. He squandered that good-will however.

The Bush administration has been wrong about every claim they’ve made concern Iraq and the Iraq war. Prior to the invasion they claimed:
Iraq has Weapons of Mass Destruction: Wrong
Iraq supplied resources to Al-Qaeda: Wrong
Iraq was involved in 9/11: Wrong
There will be very few casualties: Wrong
It will cost less than one billion dollars: Wrong
It will be paid for with Iraqi oil: Wrong
They will great us as liberators with flower and candy: Wrong
We’ll be out in a few weeks: Wrong
Every claim the Bush Administration made prior to the invasion was wrong yet, some continue to believe the continued claims made by this administration now. Why are we to believe them now when they have not been right yet?
I’ll state this is as plainly as I can. I believe the Iraq war is one of the biggest blunders in the history of the United States. It was wrong before it began. It was wrong when it started. It continues to be wrong. There are more terrorists in Iraq today than there ever was under Hussein. The war bill is looking upwards of a TRILLION dollars and thousands of lives. It has destroyed a country. It has created hostilities throughout the world against the United States. The invasion has been the greatest recruiting tool the terrorists have ever had. Combine that with the thousands who will never forget that American arms killed their loved ones, and we have created virtually a whole new army of terrorists by invading Iraq. The planning for a post-war Iraq by this administration was horrendous -- there wasn’t any.
One successful outcome of the Iraq was is the creation of new set of millionaires. War profiteering is very big business. No bid contracts to connected political insiders has created a whole industry. Trust me on this: The war contractors do not want to end the invasion. The continued presence there will continue to line the pocket books of millionaires for years to come.
Now, some Christians want to continue to support the Iraq war as if there was no other option and as if Jesus himself was behind the invasion. In Jesus’ day his followers wanted Jesus to do something about the Romans. The Romans. Oppressors. Pagans. The Enemy. His followers expected Jesus to lead the revolt, to lash out, to defend them. They nearly demanded it of him. Jesus always refused. He taught that there is a better way. His ways are not the ways of this world. The people could not hear him. Today, are we like the followers of Jesus of old? Or can we hear the new message? Jesus came with a new teaching, a new message. Do we hear it?

We will never fulfill the true meaning of Jesus’ teachings as long as we look at war as being the only path to peace. As long as we see war as the “only” way, we will never see the Jesus way.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Dating Safety

Dating and Meeting Safety:

There are some simply things you can do to help you stay safe when meeting someone from a online Christian Dating dating site.

Do not give out your phone number until you are very comfortable in doing so. Listen to your inner voice.

Do not give out your email address until you are comfortable doing so. If your email address has your name in it, you might want to consider getting one of the anonymous free email accounts such as hotmail.com or yahoo.com. Or best yet, use the actual mail system provided by the service.

Agree to meet in a public place for the first time.

When meeting for the first time, tell someone else of your plans. Agree to check in with that person at a stated time.

Do not arrange a full fledged date for the first meeting. Meet for a cup of coffee or a coke in a public area..

Agree that the meeting should last for about 30 minutes or less. At the end of that time, if you are feeling comfortable you can extend the meeting. Otherwise, say your goodbyes as you have previously agreed to. This way you if you discover that you are uncomfortable and it is not going as expected you do not have to sit through an entire date.

For the first meeting, drive separate cars. Do NOT have him/her pick you up at your home or vice versa. Meet at the designated location.

If all goes well, agree to do it again for slightly longer period.

Only when you are comfortable do you agree to a full date.

Monday, December 24, 2007

Poo on the Floor

There was poo on the floor.

Is there a better way to say that? Perhaps. But let’s be honest.
The place stunk. It was filthy. Smelly. Dirty. It was unsanitary. The air was filled with maddening, disgusting flies. It wasn’t fit for humans. I’ts why the animals were there.

Animals. Not friendly puppies and kittens, but cows, sheep, pigs, livestock. It was a barn. Actually a barn by today’s standards is probably an upgrade. Been in one lately? Cover your nose from the smell? Did you step gingerly to avoid stepping in the dung?
How would you like to eat dinner in there? Sit? Sleep?

How about having a baby?

If you were going to choose where to have a baby where would you choose? A nice, warm, sanitary hospital room with friendly, helpful nurses and doctors to help? A hospital with sanitized emergency instruments? Or even at home in the safety of your comfortable bed with the security of family and a mid-wife close by?

Is there any place worse to have a baby than a barn?
Why would anyone choose a dirty, smelly, unsanitary… barn. Yes, that is what is was. A place to house the animals. If you did have to have your baby in a barn, would you be excited and tell all your friends? “Hey, how wonderful! I had a baby in a barn next to the pigs and the cows!”
Or, would you feel humiliated. How lowly. What would your friends think?

"And they laid him in a manger." A manger. A manger is what the animals were fed from. Is that right? Did they really do that? Would you? This is not the cute, cuddly scenes we see in the Macy's store window. This was real life. A baby, in a barn, laying in the animals feeding area.

Doesn’t make much sense then does it that God, choosing to come to this earth and live with us would choose such a place to start out. God, the King of Kings, creator of the universe, omnipetent… gets born next to… the sheep and goats.

How humiliating.

Shouldn't he have been in the Presidential Palace? The Plaza Suite?

Who would have thought? They were looking for a king and missed the King. They were looking for a prince, a ruler, a powerful man, a mighty man, a rich man. They would never have thought.

Christmas. Santa? New toys? Reindeer?
What is the real meaning? What are you looking for this Christmas? Or Who are you looking for? Find it? Find Him? Maybe we should all take another look.

Monday, November 05, 2007

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    Christian Singles involved in online Christian dating services are in desperate need of a reminder to pay attention to what is love, and what is not. The most common misconception members have is that love is feelings and an excitement caused by another single Christian's presence. it is most likely to be infatuation, lust, and self-indulgence. The experience that many Christian singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite.

    There is excitement from a new Christian dating relationship, or just in meeting other single Christians of the opposite sex. This thrill is not love, but the human drive to be connected with another.

    Christian singles need to realize that love is not always fun. The real test of Christian love comes when sacrafices are shared and used to deepen the relationship. If a couple has not have any challenges in their relationship, they have not arrived at the cornerstone to love. It is in the hardships that love begins to mold the two into a real Christian relationship.

    Love is a commitment built upon trust, proven over time to build compatibility and mutually serving interest and growth. It seeks the best possible conditions for the other person’s benefit, sometimes at one’s own expense. It is not selfish, crying for attention, and complaining when things do not go their way.(Corinthians chapter 13)

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    Thursday, October 18, 2007

    More Success Stories

    Everyday somes enters into a successfull relationship. Whithout fail, we receive a success story every single day. Here are just a few of them:

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    "I just wanted to tell you that this by far is the most effective site I've ever joined. I've gotten quite a few halos and emails in the less than three weeks I've been here. That's never happened before in any dating or friendship site I've joined, Christian or secular. I really am enjoying myself and the friends I'm connecting with." C.S.

    "The site has been a blessing to me, and I have found the perfect person for me. I was just about to give up on the internet as a source of finding someone when I met the most wonderful man I have ever known. Thank you!" K.R.

    "I found someone the first time we connected. We are neighbors and did not know it. Thanks."L.S.

    "Thanks to SingleC I found my soulmate! Thank you and God bless you." R.A .

    "I'm so thankful for this site. Thru this site I found the person that GOD reserved for me. I would like to switch off my ad-profile from this site. Thank you so much and MORE POWER TO YOU GUYS!" M.L.

    "I would like to confirm my cancelation with SingleC, because I found my soul mate thought this Website. Thanks and God bless you." R.A.

    "I would like to let you know I've met someone special on your site. Thank you for the service you offer Christians." P.D.

    "Praise God. I have found the love of my life. Thank you for all you have done. God bless." S.M.

    "I have found the love of my life. God chose to use this method for whatever reason and we are just greatful that it has happened. We are CRAZY in love and plan to marry in the near future. Thank You so Much." R.R.

    "I got my soulmate from GOD through your link here. I am very happy with him. Thank you for that. GBU" L.J.

    "Hello!! I wanted to write and tell you how God used your site to bring my husband and I together! He was going to cancel his account the very day I found his profile and wrote to him, but he said the Lord told him to leave it on a while longer. I had been very disappointed in other sites, and after prayer, felt strongly impressed of the Lord to re-subscribe to SingleC. We began corresponding in Feb. and by Easter knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the Lord had brought us together to join our paths as one! We talked every night 4-6 hours!! We met June 5th, were officially engaged June 7th and married Aug 7th!. We had both waited a long time - I was 33 and my husband was 37 when we got married. The right man is definitely worth waiting for, no matter how long the wait!! We had a dream 10-day honeymoon, and just celebrated our anniversary! The Lord has blessed us with two beautiful daughters. I stand amazed at the hand of the Lord in orchestrating our romance, and am so thankful for SingleC!" B.C.

    "I met my girlfriend on SingleC.com, and will be popping the question next week... Thank you!!! I will definitely let you know how it turns out." D.J.

    "We are married now. We met on your site in June, got married in November. Thank you SingleC." J.D.

    "I joined SingleC a year ago and from that experience, met the woman who is now my fiance." K.S.

    "I have great news! I have met another member and we are officially an item you could say. We have agreed to explore what God has in store for us. It is truly a miracle how we met on this site, and see a very bright and long future together. I want to thank everyone for all the help since I've been a member. But at this time, I feel the need to cancel my membership so I can stay honest to her." B.K.

    "Keep up the great work. (I encourage people who are trial members to subscribe!) I think you all have the best site. May God continue to bless you all. "D.M."

    "Could you cancel my membership? I have met many wonderful people, and one lady in particular who I have a special relationship with, thanks for maintaining a high moral character in your work!" N.L

    "I met my husband on SingleC and there was just a little article about us in the Cincinnati Enquirer this past Sunday mentioning how we met on SingleC. We met in July of 2003. We are very grateful to SingleC and we have a terrific marriage! Thanks, SingleC - we are truly blessed and you were a huge part of that!" C.T.

    "I was skeptical, but then I met someone on your site and she is a beautiful Christian women and I could not be happier." P.S.

    Sunday, August 12, 2007

    Be Safe. Don't be Scammed

    While we would like to think that everyone that would frequent a Christian site would be honest and trustworthy, we know that there are those out there who are dishonest.

    First, be aware of the most common scam with internet dating. It is generally someone pretending to be a foreign specialist working in Nigeria, UK or some other country. After they establish some quick correspondence with you, they fall in love -- nearly over night. They ask for money for a visa to fly to see you or they ask for money for a plane ticket. Or they ask for money for their sick relatives, or some other tragic event. Or they will tell you that their employer pays them with Money Orders and they can't cash them in Nigeria. They will send you the Money Orders and ask you to deposit them into your bank account and then wire the money to them via Western Union. Usually they say to keep some money for your trouble. Needless to say, those Money Orders are no good, and not even worth the paper they're printed on.

    There are several ways to spot these scammers. Here are some things to look for...


    They are over eager to get your email address.
    They often use language such as ""Hello Dearest," and "Dear Lovely,"
    They might claim to be a doctor or engineer, yet there will be misspelled words scattered about.
    They use words like "mum" for "mom." This is normal in the UK and other places, but if they are claiming to be in the USA then it is a red flag.
    They often say their parent(s) died and they are an orphan.
    The profile says they are in the USA - but the first note you get says they are on "business" in Nigeria or the UK.
    They seem to fall in love with you overnight after just a couple of emails.
    And, of course... the biggest red flag is when they ask for money.

    So, how do you stay safe. Here are some suggestions.

    First: Use our mail system. Nobody can know anything about you other than what you tell them. Use our mail system until you are 100% comfortable with the other party.
    Do not give out your email address or home phone number to anyone until you, again, are 100% comfortable.
    Ask us! We have ways to check where someone is logging in from. If in doubt - ask. You can ask here.
    Look for descrepencies. Do they claim to be a doctor but have trouble spelling? Do they change their story between messages?
    Never, ever, ever... send money to anyone. Did we say "never, ever" yet? Once more... Never, ever, ever send anyone any money. OK?
    Get comfortable. Take your time. A real relationship takes time. Don't be in a hurry. Be patient. If that person is the special one they will be here tomorrow.
    Did we mention the money thing yet? Don't send money. Ever.

    So what we doing to keep you safe?
    We review every profile that comes through. We check every IP address. If the application says USA and the IP address shows somewhere else, then that application is deleted and never processed and that IP address is blocked.
    We are currently blocking several countries from even accessing our website. That includes some African countries and some from East Asia.
    Having said that... we do make mistakes. Some applications do slip through that we missed. So be safe... ask us for verification of anyone and we can re-check. Use our mail system. Ask questions. Look for descrepencies.
    And, of course... Don't send anyone money. If anyone asks... report it.

    Sunday, June 24, 2007

    Online Dating Tips for Christians

    Christian Online dating is one of the easiest ways to meet other single Christians. Simply join an online dating site, create an account, and you’re good to go. But there are just a few tips that will make this naturally fun ride a little less bumpy. Here we go!

    Create a separate email, and choose an address that does not reveal your real name. This gives you privacy, and also helps you keep your business and personal correspondence separate. Considering that you may get hundreds of emails a day, you’ll appreciate that kind of organization. Don’t give your private information in your profile or early on in your correspondence. This includes your last name, personal email, home address, work address, or position and company. And if you want to talk to each other on the phone, sign up for a service that will block your number from Caller ID, or talk on the cell phone instead.

    As Christian you should be honest in your ads and email correspondence.

    Don’t answer emails on the same day. You don’t want to look too desperate. Wait a bit, whet their appetite, and let them know you have a life outside of the Internet. A two to three day wait is just right: you’re not being rude, but you don’t look too needy, either. Besides, when they’re waiting, they’re interest grows: they’ll be imagining what you said, wondering about your reaction.

    If you do decide to meet up with someone you met through Internet dating, meet in a public place and inform a friend where you’re going. Schedule it in for lunch or coffee, rather than dinner. At least he won’t have to bring you home and find out where you live, and if the date bombs it’s easier to think of the excuse that you have a meeting. For additional safety, you can even ask some friends to have lunch in the same restaurant (they’ll probably be curious about him anyway!” Watch out for warning signs that the person you’re taking to is, to put it mildly, “a little nuts.” This includes flashes of temper, being pressuring or controlling, rude and demeaning remarks, inconsistent facts about age, interests, employment, etc., refusal to give direct answers. You can also actively try to “test” the person’s consistency by intentionally making a mistake when referring to something he said in the past. For example, if he said that he had a Labrador Retriever when he was growing up in a farm in Texas, casually say in a line, “Oh, I saw the most adorable sheepdog in the pet store, and I thought of you!”

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    What would be easier than getting yourself a cup of your favorite beverage, and logging in to a Christian dating service looking at the profiles of other Christian singles? Finding other singles in your area while offline can a bit of a search. An online dating service is the perfect place to start interacting with other Christian singles if you have moved to a new area and don’t know anyone.

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    The other advantage you have over meeting Christians without the internet is they are all there looking for friendship or romance. It cuts out all the guessing if someone is actually single. This allows you to use all your effort concentrated on making new friends or finding love interests. Most popular Christian dating services can have up to half a million singles.

    You can find many reviews online for Christian dating services. Once you have read the reviews you'll be in a position to choose where you would like to create a profile. After that you will be allowed to start your free trial, and get to know the service you have chosen. Free trials are a great way to test the service to see what singles they have in your area.

    Once you see a few Christian singles you’re interested in your next step will be contacting them. As a free member you can usually send someone a pre-written message chosen from a list, normally called a flirt or smile. To have more chance of getting to know someone it’s best to send a nice personal e-mail. Once you have upgraded your membership you can start sending e-mails. Most one month memberships cost less than a night out. The advantage of sending an e-mail is you can mention parts of the member's profile in the message. This is a great way to show them that you are paying attention.

    Once you have gotten to know someone online and you want the next step to be your first offline date. If you meet someone that you fall in love with you will remember that you would never had of met them if you hadn’t joined a Christian online dating service.

    Christian Dating

    If you are a Christian single, and want to find a good Christian partner it can be a task. To make your life easier you could consider a Christian online dating service. Christian singles are able to find true love online every day.

    What would be easier than getting yourself a cup of your favorite beverage, and logging in to a Christian dating service looking at the profiles of other Christian singles? Finding other singles in your area while offline can a bit of a search. An online dating service is the perfect place to start interacting with other Christian singles if you have moved to a new area and don’t know anyone.

    They have chat rooms where it's easy to make tons of new friends. Bible study partners are often looked for here, and there’s plenty to learn from the more experienced Christians. Young Christians look to these chat rooms to learn, and discover more about their faith. Again, this is something that can be difficult to do with an online Christian dating service.

    The other advantage you have over meeting Christians without the internet is they are all there looking for friendship or romance. It cuts out all the guessing if someone is actually single. This allows you to use all your effort concentrated on making new friends or finding love interests. Most popular Christian dating services can have up to half a million singles.

    You can find many reviews online for Christian dating services. Once you have read the reviews you'll be in a position to choose where you would like to create a profile. After that you will be allowed to start your free trial, and get to know the service you have chosen. Free trials are a great way to test the service to see what singles they have in your area.

    Once you see a few Christian singles you’re interested in your next step will be contacting them. As a free member you can usually send someone a pre-written message chosen from a list, normally called a flirt or smile. To have more chance of getting to know someone it’s best to send a nice personal e-mail. Once you have upgraded your membership you can start sending e-mails. Most one month memberships cost less than a night out. The advantage of sending an e-mail is you can mention parts of the member's profile in the message. This is a great way to show them that you are paying attention.

    Once you have gotten to know someone online and you want the next step to be your first offline date. If you meet someone that you fall in love with you will remember that you would never had of met them if you hadn’t joined a Christian online dating service.

    Saturday, May 12, 2007

    Men are Pigs

    Catchy title?

    I read something the other day, this is not an exact quote, but this is what it meant:

    "Why do men divorce women? Because men are pigs!
    Why do women divorce men? Because men are pigs!"

    At first I thought, "how silly." But as I explored further, I think this is mainly true in American culture.
    A man will divorce his wife and move on to another life, and society will say, "That creep!"
    Women will divorce her husband and move on and society will say, "Right on!" "We just want you to be happy." "We are glad you finally left that creep."

    Of course, this is generalization. But my own experience and observations confirm to me that this is largely true.

    Do you agree with this? If so, why is it? Please note: I'm not refering to what should be a Biblical/Christian attitude toward divorce, but what is the attitude of society in general.

    I experienced this in my own divorce 2 1/2 years ago. My wife left and suddenly all of our friends, much of family and the community left with her. All of her family - that I loved much - disappeared. She moved out and suddenly I felt like a pariah in my own neighborhood. “What did he do to cause her to leave?” I could almost hear them whispering. Friendly neighbors turned distant. I knew of many that said to her something like, "We just want you to be happy. Do what you have to do."

    I knew that if she had died her family would have visited me daily. They would have brought me food. Called me. Comforted me. Her/our friends as well would have done the same. My neighbors would have been at the door to help. But because she divorced rather than died, suddenly those family and friends dropped off the face of the earth.

    What do you think?

    Christian singles can get support here.

    Monday, May 07, 2007

    Christian Love

    Christian singles involved in online
    Christian dating services are in desperate need of a reminder to pay attention
    to what is love, and what is not. The most common misconception members have is
    that love is feelings and an excitement caused by another single Christian's
    presence. it is most likely to be infatuation, lust, and self-indulgence. The
    experience that many Christian singles refer to as love is exactly the opposite.


    There is excitement from a new Christian
    dating
    relationship, or just in meeting other single Christians of the
    opposite sex. This thrill is not love, but the human drive to be connected with
    another.


    Christian singles need to realize that love is not always fun. The real test
    of Christian love comes when sacrafices are
    shared and used to deepen the relationship. If a couple has not have any
    challenges in their relationship, they have not arrived at the cornerstone to
    love. It is in the hardships that love begins to mold the two into a real
    Christian relationship.


    Love is a commitment built upon trust, proven over time to build
    compatibility and mutually serving interest and growth. It seeks the best
    possible conditions for the other person’s benefit, sometimes at one’s own
    expense. It is not selfish, crying for attention, and complaining when things do
    not go their way.(Corinthians chapter 13)


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    Thursday, May 03, 2007

    More and More SingleC Success!

    I married a man who also was a member of Singlec.com. You just never know who you will end up with.
    Actually, he sent me an email first. He was living in Germany (army) at the time and I thought "well, nothing is going to happen with this guy but I'll just write him back to be polite". Well, that led to talking on the phone to a visit from him from Germany to my visiting him in Germany. He retired from the army and found a great job in the U.S. So we went to the courthouse there. I also signed the papers yesterday to sell my house. Tell your members that you just don't know how God will work in your life. Don't close your doors to anyone just because of circumstances because God can change them real quick. I'm so glad that I joined your site. I knew, that I knew, that I knew, when I joined your site, that I would meet a man who I could marry. Just knowing that I was on your christian site made it much easier for me ito date. Much easier. Thanks again for being a great site and helping me along when I needed you.


    M.




    I cancelling my membership for the best of reasons. I met my current fiancee/future wife here. We\'ve had a romance that spans three continents and are getting married in July. We both thank God for bringing us together and thank this website for making it possible.

    God bless you and I pray that you bring other couples together into truly wonderful relationships where the Lord is the center of everything.



    K.S.



    Find your soulmate today at SingleC.com!

    Thursday, April 26, 2007

    Online Christian Dating

    Christian Internet dating allows people with a belief in God and the Bible to find others with same or similar beliefs and principles. When considering this option, a person might get lost in a reverie, thinking back to the days of courtship when the guy would let his girl wear his class sweater, when he would carry her books, and when they included their parents in on their relationship. This old-fashioned concept has been reintroduced with a modern twist. The same values are there- just hyped up with a touch of technology. Christian net dating is something that many Christians have sought as an alternative to going out and meeting people. Sometimes people find it hard to meet others who share their same values, interests, and beliefs. The places that they could possibly meet people don't assure the same core thoughts about God. Unless the people meet at church or at a Christian place, the chances of meeting other Christians might be slim.

    There are many websites that cater to Christians with the desire to meet others. These sites want people to know that there are places to meet those who love Jesus, people who are dedicated and desire to follow Him with a whole heart. Genesis 2:18 states, "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." God is in the business of matching His people up-one man to one woman. He uses all different sets of circumstances to have peoples' paths cross and get to know their future spouse. God can use Christian Internet dating, just like He can work through friends to introduce people. However a person chooses to view this service, Christian Singles Dating can be a great thing for the right people.

    There are mature sites that cater to older audiences. For example, there might be Christian net dating sites that help seniors to meet one another. They might have been married before and then lost their spouse. They still have a desire for companionship and have turned to Christian Internet dating to help them find that potential person. These dating sites try to make the process of finding someone simple and laid back. The individual does not have to worry about looking good or being physically appealing to others in a profile. People will see the individual for who they are and that is the best part, being all that God created them to be, and to find that person that will accept this.

    Anyone with morals and principles founded on the Bible and God's love can utilize these organizations and websites to meet others. It is important for someone to pray that the Lord will direct them to the right Christian net dating sites and that they will be wise when meeting new people. A person should always look to glorify God in relationships, especially those they can connect with through Online Christian Dating.

    Sunday, April 22, 2007

    Tips to Create a Great Profile

    So, how do you avoid your profile being dull, boring and lifeless? How does
    the potential love of your life find you?

    Here's seven simple tips to help:-


    Get a good photo to post on your profile

    Choose your username with care. If you want your username to say something
    about you great, if not, just go for something simple.

    Always be positive, no moans or groans about past relationships.

    Write factual information - not subjective. So write about your job, places you've
    lived or travelled to, information about family and pets.

    Don't write about what characteristics you don't want in a partner, but write about
    the attributes that you would like.

    Write like you talk - talk about who you are.

    Revise your profile regularly and check for spelling mistakes.


    Remember to read the information for each of the profile boxes you complete - read a few
    profiles on the site to get an idea of what each box is for.

    Write in your own distinct voice - don't copy anyone elses style - and let them see the real
    "you".

    Friday, April 13, 2007

    A Few Online Dating Tips!

    You want to make sure that your profile is completed, fully. You want your profile to proprerly display 'You'. You almost always want a photo, many members won't even consider your profile wthout a photo.

    Almost every singles sites tell you to never include your email address or other contact information in your profile. This is for YOUR protection. If you post any personal contact information on your profile then EVERYONE who views your profile has that information. You are open to spam mail, scammers, or ever worse, fraud. It is definetaly important to keep your email address, phone numbers, and any other personal information confidential until you are ready.

    Online dating companies, such as
    SingleC.com, have a free trial. A free trial is probably the most helpful. The thrid tip we have for you is to make sure that you want to buy a membership. You never want to by something that won't work or doesn't seem worth the money. With a free trial you can find out what to expect and even get started with meeting other singles.

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